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Information: Family problems
Many teenagers get though the years between 13 to 19 with few problems with parents and siblings. Minor hassles are normal over tidyness, homework, money, drugs and alcohol and rules. These get sorted out without too much arguing or stress.

Some families have do have big problems, these include:-
Divorce and separation, re-forming of new families
Big arguments about rules, with lots of conflict, but no real progress
Parental mental illness (a parent may be depressed, stress, or have personality problems)
Parental drug or alcohol problems
Parental abuse, physical or sexual
Parental disorganisation, expecting teenagers to run the house and help out
Parental or sibling disability, with a teenager having to care for someone in the house.
Because the problems are so varied, you will probably need to talk to someone about how to deal with them. This could be your parents, friends, other family members, or some other professional.

Thinking about what you can control and sort out, and what is beyond your control (like parental divorce, or mental illness or disability), may help you cope better with a stressful situation.

If your parents are OK, but there are lots of arguments, to sort out family rules, everyone could try an be:-
Reasonable, talks in a calm and non-blaming way
Giving ground a bit, more give and take
Keeping promises, so that people can be trusted
Respecting privacy, and different views, even if you don't all agree
General problem solving skills can help, its hard to do this, if people have lost their tempers and are shouting, so try and do this when everyone is calmer.
It's not your fault, NCH website for younger teenagers
My family is changing, for younger teenagers